Some people volition detect us annoying. Others volition deem us rude. Still others volition mean value we're conceited, messy, obnoxious, dumb, stingy, or lazy.
And it doesn't actually affair whether whatever of these labels receive got merit or are alone baseless. All that matters is how we're perceived. Perception is, inward fact, reality inward the eyes of those who may non know us all that well.
If non a unmarried mortal has a beef alongside you lot -- if you lot experience everyone you lot know holds you lot inward high esteem -- it boils downward to i of 2 things:
(1) They're lying.
(2) You're inward denial, or inward the dark.
Someone inward our circle -- whomever it may last -- takes outcome alongside something nigh us, whether it last our religious or political beliefs, our weight, our selection of partner or career, our hobbies, our favorite foods, together with and hence forth.
Granted, someone tin flaming similar you lot and, say, nevertheless clash alongside you lot when it comes to politics. But to nation that non a unmarried mortal would always alter anything nigh you lot is simply non true.
Unfortunately, fifty-fifty the people nosotros presume to last our closest friends or most trustworthy coworkers tin flaming harbor envy nigh the prissy identify nosotros receive got or recent advertisement nosotros got at function -- but driblet dead along mum nigh it or, fifty-fifty worse, utter smack alongside others behind your back.
But await on the brilliant side: If people are jealous of you, there's something you lot must last doing right, together with deep downward they probable wishing to last to a greater extent than similar you.
Many people nosotros come upward across daily are opportunists. They pretend to similar us because they know we'll last to a greater extent than inclined to create favors for them when they bespeak us. But below the surface, if they detect no bespeak for us, they couldn't attention less whether they never saw us again.
If anyone pushes you lot to alter -- together with you lot experience tempted to create together with hence simply to brand it their proficient graces -- concord your ground. You shouldn't receive got to alter anything nigh yourself unless it's something you lot really want. If they can't convey the existent you, they tin flaming walk.
It's amend to last hated for who you lot are than loved for who you're not. We don't bespeak everyone to similar us. We don't bespeak anyone's validation. As long equally we're happy alongside ourselves, that's all that counts.
